When you are in the grasp of a bully, you may not recognize what is happening. As the bully takes hold of their victim, the victim becomes weaker and the bully becomes stronger. It is as though you fade away. The frirst step is recognizing that there is nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't feel ashamed to ask for help. With help from others you can begin to take back your power.
My gay son and I were watching the movie “Bent” sitting side by side holding hands as tears ran down our faces. We watched these men in love, not being able to love freely—and my eyes were opened. My life had been so consumed with worry about my son, and I had never understood his need to love and be loved, freely. I finally understood.
“Being a transgender is like being trapped in the wrong body. Just imagine waking up one morning and there you are finding yourself in the wrong body, the wrong gender.” Sitting there that day as I listened to Rev David Weekly tell me his story I could almost see him as a kindergartener on the school bus required to wear a dress and crawling under the seats through all the kids legs and feet because wearing a dress seemed to him as wrong.
"I never made it easy for people to define my sexuality, which made it challenging for others to relate to and accept me.
I believe human sexuality is on a sliding scale; some are more one way than the other." From my book Dear Traci - Unspoken Words
today I withdrew my book from the publisher that was considering my book and have decided to publish my book independently. I have to be true to my book and the 52 LGBTQ people who opened their hearts to me and told me their stories and shared their unspoken words. I plan to have the book in both print and ebook form by Gay Pride 2014. Any support would be appreciated.
I got an email from a gay friend last night who had moved to another state to get a better job and to be close to family. He got a great job but at work he kept his sexuality a secret. His social life was nonexistent and his family non-accepting. He is having a tough time. Sometimes our family does not have the love and acceptance to give us that we need so we need to surround ourselves with friends that do. Most importantly it is not our fault. Sending my thoughts and love across the miles.